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In my opinion, Obama has the following three experience is worth our post-80 learning:

One, identified themselves. Everyone is aware of their personality, weaknesses, origin and descent, but not everyone is actively identified with his own everything, and then burst out the incredible explosive force to explore their own life. Obama's origins are complex, and his father was a black student from Kenya, his mother is white from Kansas, in the early years of racial discrimination still exists in the United States, and his mixed-race identity allowed him to look around the crowd is very heterogeneous. There was a time, he has also lived in Indonesia not speak the language, he often met other children teasing around he is the only such a foreign child, but also he is the only one to go to a new Catholic school. Are living around Batavia, or Jakarta, indigenous people, who are all Muslim without exception. In this regard, he also confused before, fortunately he did not go on depression, but rather a positive view of their origin, highly identified with his own half of the whites, blacks in general a priori element. And then actively into the crowd around them, regard themselves as part of the United States, one with the powers and duties of U.S. citizens. He understood, as what you own, you will become what, in his words is "There is not a liberal in the United States, nor a conservative America, there is only one United States of America. There is not a black American and a white America, Hispanic America, Asian American, there is only one United States of America. "

In contrast, after 80 domestic generation, our primary school time to study up on the back, wait for us on the junior high school, when, early study up has been canceled; our time to catch up with the college entrance examination entrance examination system, textbook reform, history, politics and so on textbook row 3 years are "try this." Take the world in the History of Napoleon III, the first year of the name is Louis. Bonaparte, Louis became the second year. Napoleon, and later, some experts pointed out that the wrong, then the third year was changed to Louis. Napoleon. Bonaparte is simply to take us as mutton Kaishuan; in our college, when they caught up with the enrollment. School income is more, but the increase in input Quemei, so the results of the quality of college students train can be imagined. Thus, we caught up with the employment difficulties, lower starting salaries year after year. We can not blame those who, after 80-caught in a stage of social change encountered these unhappy place is quite normal, and even suffered a lot of those issues the same for 60 after 70 after their contempt and accusations are also normal. For our living environment and the reality hit, we do not need to complain about, there is no need to self-esteem, since God only gave us a lemon, we simply do cup lemon juice. After the 80 representatives of not only caught the word, confused, also represents an opportunity, innovation and subversion, as the Internet, we are no historical and does not require history, we have is just at the foot of the road. BenBen family Ye Hao, flash marriage, what we must bravely go on and stick to it, just like QQ, as only a small number of people began to pass the time of the network of pagers, as time progresses, each of the Internet who must now become prepared by the network ID. Identified themselves, time will help us defeat all.

Second, learn to think. Everyone has the brain, but not everyone will correct way of thinking. Obama's contact with the drug days, his grades plummeted, to lose confidence in the future, drugs became his best to avoid the reality of social and safe haven. However, in the mother's counseling, he gradually began to think about, reflect on their plight, from the books, their loved ones who draw strength. After entering New York, Columbia University, Obama decided to start everything afresh and completely abandon the cultivation of those in the West College of bad habits. Majoring in political science, he regularly participated in various activities organized by black students, including the anti-apartheid protests and so on. On the eve of graduation in 1983, he decided to organize community activities as their cause to run hard. He believes: "We need to create a group, fought, and hard work." Today, he turned into a lot of Americans, this idea of common ideas.

Obama in his autobiography, "My father's dream - of race and inheritance" at the end, wrote that U.S. law has provided us with such a large background, from which we understand that this nation has been engaged in debate with their conscience: We are The community is what this community how this can be achieved through the kind of freedom? We can do, to what? How to power into justice, the sentiment into love? I have found in the legal book to make himself satisfied with the answer - such as the case of Brown v. Board of Education case, in order to give up self-interest and greed of conscience everywhere. However, in the United States law, when they heard the voices from all levels and views, I was greatly encouraged as long as we remain convinced that dares to ask these questions, then maintain with our conscience will eventually prevail.

Many of my classmates and I have been out of the home, to the cities, they have also prepared to stay here holding lofty ideals. However, this is the idea of schools, schools like greenhouse, the reality is far When the air outside, once the contacts with society, this ideal is to take time and the brain go amendment. Failure to make timely amendments to a lot of people, so they returned, like many college students, like, when a village official or a teacher, from wind drift and no longer charge the brain think about life. Once thought to change the life, we should really treat their own brain.

Third, from a tender age, and foster self-confidence. Obama has been seriously depressed in college before, when his father gave him a basketball for Christmas, he came into contact with basketball. At first, he clumsy, but soon he was on the growing self-confidence. In high school, Obama was River school team selected to take charge, even though he is not the start pitcher, but soon he was on the pitch to get to know a group of like-minded friends. Barack Obama began learning to play basketball, and soon discovered that basketball has not only brought him a sense of belonging, but also helped him to find a way to release themselves. Obama playing varsity basketball in high school. The year before graduation, the school won the state championship-winning, because Obama has good long-distance pitching, he had won a "Bali Bomber" nickname. Throughout college, even when studying at Harvard Law School, he has not stopped playing basketball. He said: "In the basketball court, I have found a like-minded friends, also found his own identity. It is in the game, I mix and white friends, where the black skin is no longer representative of the inferior."

Self-confidence is very difficult to grasp what has become a little too conceited and have become a little lack of self-esteem. As a 80, we are often the beginning of the former, her frustration quickly turned into the latter, gradually, and self-confidence we are farther and farther. How to do? I think we should learn from Obama, you can easily find a sense of achievement from the start of things, little by little accumulation of success and self-confidence. Like writing blog, today's 10 hits, 50 hits tomorrow, the day after tomorrow is perhaps 100,000!

Talked about so much, only wish to say is: Obama, all the best, China's 80 after all the best.

If you put the same amount of 6 bees and flies only to put into a glass bottle, and then the bottle flat, so that bottom of the bottle toward the window, what would happen?

You will see, the bees constantly want to find the exit in the bottom of the bottle, until they are exhausted dead or died of starvation; and flies will be in less than two minutes, through the other side of the bottleneck escape an empty --- In fact, precisely because of the bright bees love, because of their intelligence, it perished.

Bee thought that the export of cells bound to a place in the brightest light; they kept repeating the logical action. Pairs of bees, the glass is a kind of supernatural mystery, which are never encountered in nature, can not penetrate the atmosphere, this sudden; and the higher their intelligence, this strange obstacle becomes more unacceptable and incomprehensible.

Those stupid flies are not pay attention to the logic of things, totally disregarding the light attracted looked flying a result, stumbled quite accidentally into the good fortune to run into; such simple-minded and wise man who always saved the demise of the local well. Therefore, the flies and found that just kind of carried to the export and, therefore, freedom and new life.

Enterprises should be aware of the most important thing is that when everyone follows the rules, creativity will be stifled. The rule here is that bees have strictly adhered to the bottle of "logic", but stick to the outcome is death.

Environment for business survival may suddenly become unpredictable from the normal state, the unthinkable, incomprehensible, enterprises in the "bees" who will be hit at any time can not be alien to the "glass wall." Leader's job is to give a reasonable nature of this change and to identify lead the company out of crisis.

If you want to be a very successful company, there must be a new way of thinking. The world changed so much, we need to open arms, and threw himself into this time, learn to think in a different way, in this era filled with change, we need to speed up the pace.

Only by striving to innovate, will have a future, inertia or blindly imitate others, in the end doomed to fail.

I thought I should be the most lonely people
We have forgotten the warm side pair of eyes
No matter how lonely, what a scrap
As long as you stay with me

I think that he might be the most lonely people
Ignore the mind share of beautiful tenderness
No matter how lonely are hardly helpless
Around with your feet

When I was alone when it comes to holding your
How sweet was that the
When I was lonely when it comes to thinking about you
How fortunate that the

When I was so lonely when you are holding
Life does not give up
When I was lonely, so when thinking of you
Only life you treasure

I thought I should be the most lonely people
We have forgotten the warm side pair of eyes
No matter how lonely, what a scrap
As long as you stay with me

I thought

Chiung Yao's romantic novel, there is a stylized description of that conflict is the core of many stories-law conflicts. Male and female are very in love, but the man often has a widowed mother for many years, she and the heroine go against everything. Actor is very good also very filial piety, unwilling to hurt his mother, while he was deeply in love with the female lead; heroine of the actor is infatuation, but can not stand his mother's everywhere to make things difficult. This dilemma so that male and female, and also hard to be difficult, thus driving the development of the story; eventually tend to have a tragic ending. The female lead in this inextricable contradictions in extreme pain, she chose to run away from home, or die of grief. Such stories make cachet of teenage girls and starry-eyed young woman who watched the side away tears, unable to stop.

Qiong Yao's story is romantic, but her mother-and daughter talking about the universality of contradictions in reality, very. A look at our neighbors, and relatives and friends were bar-laws have some conflicts more or less. Do not live together, there is the appearance of harmony; living together, like the Ukrainian eye like a bucket of chicken a Mei Wan.

Why do not other family affection between mother-and daughter relationships, as calm, for example, Wengxu relationship; why the number of mothers get together, talk about a wife to endless complaints about it all?

I think the contradictions in-laws does not matter who produces what wrong, nor is it who will not deal with interpersonal relationships, it stems from the universality of human nature, more precisely, from women's characteristics. I think that the resulting conflict-laws have the following three reasons:

First, the child wins. We have often heard her mother complain that after her son talked about his girlfriend, especially after the marriage he did not so good as before. Others are very filial piety from an early age his mother, listen to mother's words Guaier Zi, married later, obviously with his mother grew apart. The signs are to convey a message to his mother that his son's wife Qianzhu all of the thoughts, the son put more care and attentive to his wife, while his mother ignored a lot; it to have been his son as the child's mother felt that her son farther and farther away from their own. Mother felt the main reason for this phenomenon is the emergence of a wife. Therefore, the kind of mother would her son to vent their anger with his estranged wife. Perhaps the wife has not done nothing wrong, but because of heart with such bitterness, so how to see how it unacceptable and daughter. Especially since some mothers, young widowhood, depending on the spirit of his son as a pillar of his son's alienation as if deprived of the spirit of relying on her; the mother is even more resentment of her son, daughter snatched her into a lonely spirit. Chiung Yao's novels I have mentioned above, the right type of small to analyze the mother's state of mind, but the performance of such mothers are most vividly. In particular, these mothers do not want to see her son and daughter-in front of her affection, because in her view, there go the closer, the more far away from here on. Some of the mothers early in the morning of a wife is called up to do housework, or see the wife up late, and unhappy; is not what a wife really wrong, just because her mother do not want to see her son and daughter spend more affectionate.

To resolve such contradictions in-laws, the best way is after his son got married and live separately from their parents, eyes do not see a net. In addition, the sensible mother's son better not to be too affectionate in front of the wife; want to intimate to return to their home and how little can be affectionate. Done at random before the mother that make the mother's mind a lot more practical.

The second is jealous. Son, married love, the family of a young woman more. Generally speaking, young women than in older women more attractive to men and his wife caused by the arrival of the most attention in addition to this family other than his son is the father of. We are private between the father and the daughter-in-deviance is called "Pa Hui." Novel "Dream of Red Mansions", the focus has Bahui large cursed Jia's things out of course, refers to the funeral Tianxiang Lou Qin Ke-qing lewd matter, JIA Zhen Qin Ke-qing, and father of this paragraph. This phenomenon is not uncommon in popular, because if an individual, and there is no word of a dedicated; the vast majority of people will not have this to happen, because the Chinese people's conscience is still relatively strong. But not to say that any father-daughter pairs had the idea of a father is a big rogue? I do not think so. My Fair Lady seeking gentleman well these words, in the family circle will not necessarily come out, but the idea is unavoidable, and it is very normal. On the contrary, I feel that if father did not mind that feeling, that is not quite in line with human nature.

I want to make an example. We pass a high-end of West Point, when the shop window and saw windows stood an attractive cream cake, if we are hungry, we do not wish to bite a few mouthfuls of that cream cake? However, we may be reluctant to spend money or no money with him; So, take a look at an attractive cream flowers, cream smell that intoxicating fragrance, swallowing saliva, may be left. However, you do not buy it, you do not eat, do not you do not want to buy it does not want to eat, but take into account other factors, you only give up the idea of eating. But if your family bought milk cake, you want to eat when not restrained and eat all you want ?. But it can not hold that, you are only interested in pairs of family cake and butter cake, the outside is not interested in it?

Law and ethics can only block the action, nothing can block the thought, or block the idea of layman's terms. Understand this principle is very easy to understand the kind of father and daughter-in-the delicate relationship between them. On the one hand is the opposite sex, while daughter-off than the old woman young and beautiful, fresh and mysterious, her father even more attractive. However, in most cases, the Chinese people by moral constraints, will restrain the idea of living does not meet the moral, and the surface of What's the matter did not look.

Zennai who restrain their action, will inevitably expose the subconscious instinctive action. For example, a casual look at a wife, or vision, when swept in the wife's body remained for half a second more than a father he did not realize anything, or that he thought it all very natural, there is nothing inappropriate places; but mother out of woman's unique way sensitive, but to accurately capture this phenomenon. Mother felt the father's mind aroused wife attracted the attention of father, old man of their original focus has changed. Leading to the reasons for this phenomenon, of course, went into the house of the wife. And so they blame on the wife's own sense of loss. Even the old man's a casual movement, an expression, is also considered to be the old man her mother began to hate himself, and tired himself, this is kicking up clouds of bad wife.

Wife went into the house, the grandmother was the first loss of the child after the loss, she thought to feel better? That all heart imbalance, it is clear that not blame wife blame Who? But that is difficult in the ming, so there will be a through grandson, Through good and bad food, or through other chores at home will mean up. Where unsuspecting wife, because she was the kind of mind to wait a few years later, and so she became a mother, she can understand, this moment she could not understand. Mother how she felt finding fault it for no reason? Her mother unreasonable strange, strange lady is an old monster. This hatchback have this kind of psychology, she met one can do? Can do is not noisy?

Or in front of said, his son and daughter-in-laws do not live together, father and daughter meet less, such troubles would be reduced, the gas must shun her mother much more.

The third is jealous. Literary works in the film where we often see such a performance. When a man praise a woman in front when another woman, that woman will say: "Do not praise a woman before another woman." Why? You say another woman is good, she listened to be jealous.

I am a teacher in the National Taiwan Normal University, I taught class there are two female students prefer to come to chat with me. Whenever I mentioned in a girl before the merits of the other girls when the two girls were amazingly consistent, they look like a great expression, and are not willing to listen to. Easily lead to jealousy among women, especially when a pretty girl one time, more likely to be jealous of other girls. The same unit, the same sections, and the more recent jealousy will be. They may not have any interest, the young beautiful in itself would have been jealous of other women. By middle age after the beauty is gone, this will be reduced on a beautiful lot of jealousy; is because of this, among the middle-aged women are particularly vulnerable to making friends. After the women move into middle age, much easier to get along with each other. Therefore, the young wife has just come to her husband, her young and beautiful, and her beautiful wardrobe, and make has entered the middle-aged and even elderly mother-envy. A man's wife will often buy some clothes from time to time to the mother to help her mother dress up dress up, so you can defuse some of this jealousy.

Mentioned above, the relationship between mother-and daughter prone to three major reasons for the contradictions, I think that human nature, this three kinds of incentives have led to conflicts exist, but because each person's ethical standards, interpersonal abilities and each family the specific situation is somewhat different; so, it may be diluted in some family conflicts, and did not stand out, while in another family, then the expression was even more acute. If you want to understand, the relationship between a person's social attributes, social attributes and human beings in addition, there are natural attributes, you can easily understand my analysis. Of my analysis was not justified, you can try other people think you are familiar with, but it is best not to tell his people face to face to listen, understand very well on it. Specifically to refer to someone's there such a thing, people of non-urgent you can not.

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