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In my opinion, Obama has the following three experience is worth our post-80 learning:

One, identified themselves. Everyone is aware of their personality, weaknesses, origin and descent, but not everyone is actively identified with his own everything, and then burst out the incredible explosive force to explore their own life. Obama's origins are complex, and his father was a black student from Kenya, his mother is white from Kansas, in the early years of racial discrimination still exists in the United States, and his mixed-race identity allowed him to look around the crowd is very heterogeneous. There was a time, he has also lived in Indonesia not speak the language, he often met other children teasing around he is the only such a foreign child, but also he is the only one to go to a new Catholic school. Are living around Batavia, or Jakarta, indigenous people, who are all Muslim without exception. In this regard, he also confused before, fortunately he did not go on depression, but rather a positive view of their origin, highly identified with his own half of the whites, blacks in general a priori element. And then actively into the crowd around them, regard themselves as part of the United States, one with the powers and duties of U.S. citizens. He understood, as what you own, you will become what, in his words is "There is not a liberal in the United States, nor a conservative America, there is only one United States of America. There is not a black American and a white America, Hispanic America, Asian American, there is only one United States of America. "

In contrast, after 80 domestic generation, our primary school time to study up on the back, wait for us on the junior high school, when, early study up has been canceled; our time to catch up with the college entrance examination entrance examination system, textbook reform, history, politics and so on textbook row 3 years are "try this." Take the world in the History of Napoleon III, the first year of the name is Louis. Bonaparte, Louis became the second year. Napoleon, and later, some experts pointed out that the wrong, then the third year was changed to Louis. Napoleon. Bonaparte is simply to take us as mutton Kaishuan; in our college, when they caught up with the enrollment. School income is more, but the increase in input Quemei, so the results of the quality of college students train can be imagined. Thus, we caught up with the employment difficulties, lower starting salaries year after year. We can not blame those who, after 80-caught in a stage of social change encountered these unhappy place is quite normal, and even suffered a lot of those issues the same for 60 after 70 after their contempt and accusations are also normal. For our living environment and the reality hit, we do not need to complain about, there is no need to self-esteem, since God only gave us a lemon, we simply do cup lemon juice. After the 80 representatives of not only caught the word, confused, also represents an opportunity, innovation and subversion, as the Internet, we are no historical and does not require history, we have is just at the foot of the road. BenBen family Ye Hao, flash marriage, what we must bravely go on and stick to it, just like QQ, as only a small number of people began to pass the time of the network of pagers, as time progresses, each of the Internet who must now become prepared by the network ID. Identified themselves, time will help us defeat all.

Second, learn to think. Everyone has the brain, but not everyone will correct way of thinking. Obama's contact with the drug days, his grades plummeted, to lose confidence in the future, drugs became his best to avoid the reality of social and safe haven. However, in the mother's counseling, he gradually began to think about, reflect on their plight, from the books, their loved ones who draw strength. After entering New York, Columbia University, Obama decided to start everything afresh and completely abandon the cultivation of those in the West College of bad habits. Majoring in political science, he regularly participated in various activities organized by black students, including the anti-apartheid protests and so on. On the eve of graduation in 1983, he decided to organize community activities as their cause to run hard. He believes: "We need to create a group, fought, and hard work." Today, he turned into a lot of Americans, this idea of common ideas.

Obama in his autobiography, "My father's dream - of race and inheritance" at the end, wrote that U.S. law has provided us with such a large background, from which we understand that this nation has been engaged in debate with their conscience: We are The community is what this community how this can be achieved through the kind of freedom? We can do, to what? How to power into justice, the sentiment into love? I have found in the legal book to make himself satisfied with the answer - such as the case of Brown v. Board of Education case, in order to give up self-interest and greed of conscience everywhere. However, in the United States law, when they heard the voices from all levels and views, I was greatly encouraged as long as we remain convinced that dares to ask these questions, then maintain with our conscience will eventually prevail.

Many of my classmates and I have been out of the home, to the cities, they have also prepared to stay here holding lofty ideals. However, this is the idea of schools, schools like greenhouse, the reality is far When the air outside, once the contacts with society, this ideal is to take time and the brain go amendment. Failure to make timely amendments to a lot of people, so they returned, like many college students, like, when a village official or a teacher, from wind drift and no longer charge the brain think about life. Once thought to change the life, we should really treat their own brain.

Third, from a tender age, and foster self-confidence. Obama has been seriously depressed in college before, when his father gave him a basketball for Christmas, he came into contact with basketball. At first, he clumsy, but soon he was on the growing self-confidence. In high school, Obama was River school team selected to take charge, even though he is not the start pitcher, but soon he was on the pitch to get to know a group of like-minded friends. Barack Obama began learning to play basketball, and soon discovered that basketball has not only brought him a sense of belonging, but also helped him to find a way to release themselves. Obama playing varsity basketball in high school. The year before graduation, the school won the state championship-winning, because Obama has good long-distance pitching, he had won a "Bali Bomber" nickname. Throughout college, even when studying at Harvard Law School, he has not stopped playing basketball. He said: "In the basketball court, I have found a like-minded friends, also found his own identity. It is in the game, I mix and white friends, where the black skin is no longer representative of the inferior."

Self-confidence is very difficult to grasp what has become a little too conceited and have become a little lack of self-esteem. As a 80, we are often the beginning of the former, her frustration quickly turned into the latter, gradually, and self-confidence we are farther and farther. How to do? I think we should learn from Obama, you can easily find a sense of achievement from the start of things, little by little accumulation of success and self-confidence. Like writing blog, today's 10 hits, 50 hits tomorrow, the day after tomorrow is perhaps 100,000!

Talked about so much, only wish to say is: Obama, all the best, China's 80 after all the best.

Zhao Benshan in the Spring Festival Evening, the face of Aunt clouds of a "stretch out, stretching his arm," secret signal, the hastened to make a similar response to the action, many people are rolling on the. First laugh of his acting, and second, laughed at him henpecked afraid to this sake. But laugh, not ridicule, is lovely, both respected.
With regard to henpecked, 80, after her husband has his own manifesto.

to henpecked ashamed of, that is, after 60 dry Shier

Previously, men are henpecked ashamed of. "Wife tube-yan," as if the plague epidemic, men fear to avoid any connection. Therefore, the wine on the table of men and Doo-Yong Zheng-qi drinking buddies, if his wife urge somebody to drink, he must have better face, pretended not henpecked. Anxious to persuade his wife, and he would roar on your voice and even violence. Even if he does not have the heart, and even some emboldened enough, but in that occasion, henpecked would be other men laughed. Therefore, even if risking the danger of family disputes arise, or go home at night to kneel clothing rub board, tonight should be "good face-saving project" carried out in the end.

Therefore, it is to marry a man complained to me privately: I am an adult who had a wife, how it can not be reasonable? She even let me go home at night loaded grandchildren, at least in front of others pretended not to be afraid of me than I am afraid that she ah.

Must not be henpecked, even fear, but also in fear in private, in front of outsiders, be sure to install a man a real man - which is male-dominant ideas of many men.
80 after the male: new henpecked Declaration

New henpecked men are confident the chest and will not rely on those external evaluations to confirm their self-esteem. On the contrary, precisely because he has the inherent self-confidence, even in the public and from the occasions, risked others ridiculed as the "wife tube-yan," the danger, but also maintenance, courteous wife. He was very strong hand, open-minded, therefore, do not care about how others evaluate.

New henpecked men know, the male-dominant ideas does not need to rely on "fear of leaving their wives as their own" to reflect. It is outdated, is violence, is unequal, depending on the conquest to win the weak self-esteem. This man won on the surface, but it planted the seeds of hatred, or complaining about roots. New henpecked men, accepted the spirit of a gentleman smoked Amoy. He understands the essence of the spirit of a gentleman is: First, we must be courteous woman, even though their grievance by the points.

New henpecked men also know that women also have vanity, a good face. If we can at a crucial moment, because "fear" and give her enough of her face, it is precisely a loved her performance. Those who often abandon their wives face, while the achievements of their male chauvinist image of a man, is precisely the kind of selfish and can not truly love his wife's performance.

New henpecked men also know, because I care about you, so afraid of you. This is a simple love of nature, had, in the patriarchal ideology lifted, this precious quality of being flooded, but today a new era of men getting more and more emboldened, they have the courage of those little self-deprecating their own weaknesses the courage to give up parts of ourselves. Only those who are insecure people themselves firmly grasp and hold.
This new henpecked man, we have many people who see it.

A short piece in the Zhao Benshan, in Victoria Beckham to help raise apron, the man's striving to be home in Shanghai, in "My Sassy Girl", in the Jet Li-chi's humility in the right. Therefore, the new man at the reception desk before the face of persistent urge somebody to drink when other people will be justifiably put His wife moved out to:
My wife will not let me drink alcohol, possession with me.
Scared happy, sweet, proud.

Women of course, warmly welcome this new henpecked men in large numbers. Because Care, women know that the only way of men who truly love herself. Afraid, is a respected, is an open-minded, is a man's generosity, is a man mind. Today, this new male ideology deeply rooted among the men henpecked scared openly, this is a woman's role in promoting, but also a man of self-renewal results.

However, women also know that they will not abuse such a fear of men, re-bullying men. The so-called fear, more of a flirting couple's art is a kind of mutual respect. In between husband and wife really does not exist is more afraid, and some just love and respect.

since the son was born, my husband two directly by the sweet world has entered four of the world. Do not think I gave birth to twins, ah, is not so extreme: only because of the arrival of her son, mother, and we have had on the unbreakable family of four lives.

No way, ah, they have to go to work, nannies also can not afford, nor be assured that had mien please come and help her mother and started and her mother is also confident he could get along very good, experienced a down-laws get along really found is not so simple, 80 between the post and 50 post-gap is not as simple as can be crossed by.

Take the most common life of trivia for instance, previously only when the life of me and her husband, often he was washing dishes I cook, I wipe the window he was mopping the floor, both with quite a tacit understanding with the sharing of household chores, no one said .

But now is different, and distressed his son's mother can not see my husband do the slightest thing to see him put on a do something to help me look up that immediately grab;
"Oh, your menfolk of how Tate's so good for nothing, I have come to me," while robbing him of the manual labor while Zhiding me. That vision, as if I committed a little sin and she could not bear that clemency could be full of blame that one point had not pull down. Impossible for me to help delivery Lianjiao husband had to root around Chouchou onion-law is available.

Several times down, they are too lazy then told him to help, with the result, and now her husband and she was so used to being looked after, and then refused to help me do anything, but also righteous, not I quit, ah, let mother. There are many such things, I am sure you sisters and I have the same experience! No matter how pleasing, my mother is neither hot nor cold, but then gives way, or cousin, saying that elderly people need to coax, as long as she feel that you her body center, put in some effort. Happens, the recent milk door matter is taken to the uproar, her mother did not dare to drink milk, and let me show off their capabilities Bar!
In fact, elderly people sometimes just want us to care about them some more, so simple.

The minds of many would like to, she said, could be said does not export. From the beginning to now in just two and a half months. Every time she thought could be really good painful thought, as a man should not be easy to cry, forgive me hypocritical, I really want to cry.

A beginning, I knew her, we are a company, I graduated from college, she was educated lower than me, that is my only gives me the courage to pursue her causes. After a special festival day, I am depressed repeatedly sent her text messages on the dramatic knew her, and now want to come might be heaven for my bar blink of an eye on him. Her gentle beautiful in my eyes, though she always says he's brutal, I am a quiet inner phase of the men, college graduates up to now not spoken in love, although many people chasing her but she has not talked about, I feel that my to find a barbaric girlfriend, I hope that she would from time to time in front of me like a baby, really good looking forward to some day.

I am because it is love, what did not understand, she always said I am not romantic, in fact, I look cool, romantic heart is a very enthusiastic person. Is just the beginning still can not relax. She has told me that her own good, we are all people who do not know how to refuse, so we have been away for a month, she was good as gold at home, the daughter heard what her parents, and her parents to allow her to 23 years old only love, it is now 21 and I 23. Therefore, she has always been afraid to take me to see her parents, she is also very timid love I just want to be able to find a married person, in fact I am serious, I just want to marry her.

80 after the woman said the most realistic. She did not dare to take me to see her parents to the fact that her parents know that I am afraid of the conditions clubbing mandarin duck. But now college students who have graduated from a high of harsh conditions, hard on the 10 years of study, in addition to well-off families are like this, and she just wanted her parents to have at least added a house man.

One morning, she suddenly said to me, texting me let go, and I was really good can not be reconciled, I feel she is like me, just do not want her parents to make things difficult, I think of her before and said those words, really a good cry, do not know if you still remember, when I tell you, no matter who is what happens after the misunderstanding between us, do not ignore each other, face to face must be clear, do not let misunderstandings retained. But you have just made a message to comment on this end.

Yes ah, I was a certain sense of inferiority, and some aloof from worldly affairs of men, I am not the kind of person who persists in arguing endlessly, you decide to go I will not be forced you. Former friends often comment on the surrounding beauty, he was a bother to bring this to people who will soon forget you, but as time went by thoughts of your days and nights are a continuation of the good would like to return to the past that time, although the Sentimental, but also happy. In front of you, your friends with a smile said to me, is also very good because I do not want to lose your thoroughly before agreeing to, you know when my heart is in the blood. You will hurt my heart forever.

Who kids: let the elderly with VS by their own band?

Veronica said: Mummy was a young woman on the go out and work full-time mother with children so what's Offer? Kids are small, the elderly can Gaoding: I gave birth to three baby this is not all of them have raised a sturdy wizard? Raising children, our experience lot of young people than you. Therefore, the child so that grandparents with the best.

After 80 Mummy: Although the elderly to raise a child, but little scientific knowledge, and even bad habits. For example, the chewing of food stuffed into a child's mouth had more unsanitary ah! Today's children, and is not easy to tune, and say, parents devote to accompany their children around, let him really feel an early age her mother's love and to benefit children as they grow. Therefore, the conditions allow, the child is best to bring their own!

parenting: the child as "pig" to support VS Science on the "book" care of them?

Veronica said: raising a child, regard him as "pig" nourishing. With small children, and just eat sleep good fun. The long-time president of Hou, the overstating of the time he will naturally be overstating, there is no Han a big deal.

80 After the Mummy: This can not work, it should be raised to follow the scientific method. Learn some books on parenting knowledge, at what stage in the way of what kind is very important. Some of the important period of growth stage education, if not pay attention to, it is easy to neglect to miss.
education, school choice: go with the flow VS pursuit of prestigious schools?

Mother that: a child in primary school, why Xiaojiannaodai into the elite? Sponsorship fee to pay fifty or sixty thousand of wasted money, did not say, into the elite schools will be able to Ze Yang? The key is the child himself is willing to learn, love of learning.

80 After the Mummy: the child's primary school can not be belittled. Small children, their own ability to judge poor, good schools, good teachers good style of study is very important. Advocates to find a better all aspects of the school. Money is not a problem, it is important to pave the way for the child's future growth.
vaccination: ill until medical VS vaccination prevented?

Veronica said: man is an iron-rice is a steel, as long as the kids eat sleep, can so what's wrong? Vaccination, children were able in Zadeh, distressed! I In the countryside, how can there be so many ploidy? Is not an injection, your husband is not also a jump kid a? Ill only medicine, is being unreasonable. Why so I treasure the old grandson rolling pin vaccine?

After 80 Mummy: current and former big difference, environmental pollution and more serious ah. Pop up from time to time out of a terrible flu, pay no attention to the prevention gnaw them? However, the disease not to be trifled. Once sick, expensive medical expenses not say, suffer the whole family. Vaccination, is a scientific approach. Relative to the treatment, prevention is more important, early vaccination, early prevention, early benefit. To give the child health, disease prevention in the first place, must take vaccination ?.

Say that the relationship is not easy at-law, it seems that little baby daughter will also become a source of the problem ?. Children are still raised, PK-laws will not stop! However, according to the idea of the younger generation of view, in accordance with the concept of scientific rationality childcare preferable. The young wife and elderly mother always PK, the step by step forward.

new childcare view: good match to find playmates for their children look for partners, parents, posted

Summer day, a similar message, made a four or five, dutifully to his 6-year-old mother was the daughter of a half a movie to find a small partner, colleagues, 9-year-old daughter.

"Now the children to find playmates can be sad to say, the summer vacation should be a lot of kids to various training courses, the kids get together kinda bad for." Gigi Mom felt, and now raising their children, a lot of energy to be used to lonely child looking for a friend.
parenting book makes people feel happy and worry about the young parents have to follow suit

"Boss according to the book to support her younger brother when the pig raising." Taiwan's young parents such a popular saying a word, meaning that after the birth of her first child, parents have the light of child-rearing book to raise a child may be at school the parents attributes actually enjoy the more confused , the raising of a second child, simply complete throw away books, their own intuition and experience of raising a.