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What kind of woman would have derailed a partner "turn a blind eye"?

Experts: There are very few women will not be derailed because of a partner and painful, or the extent of pain is very light. Because of their high degree of self-satisfied about, and they are usually dominant in the core of the work. Their inner balance, firm, mature, good to restrain myself, not aggressive. Otherwise, one has been shattered plates could escalate into a "family war." They are also adept at managing their own negative emotions (such as constantly ask themselves, "what point in the end she was stronger than me?" "Is not my ugly too well boring?")

Because of their self-awareness good, so they feel, even if the betrayal was a lover, but the achievements in other areas is enough to prove their excellence, such as they are a good mother, good wife in the eyes of the outside world, good staff - these are sufficient to cushion the blow had been betrayed. In this particularly vulnerable time, if they realize that in fact, we are still in the eyes of other men attractive if they can hold on.

If she is paying more attention to "the senses of love" rather than "the spirit of love" is not any more receptive to your partner unfaithful?

Experts: There is a derailment of a man often said to me: "I would never fart in front of my lover." Derailed a partner who knows, but there is no quarreling women were very clear, both men and women, it is necessary to maintain long-term partner's loyalty is how difficult a thing ... ...

For them, a man with a lover derailment is like writing a poem, but he was, and she wrote a whole novel. So many of the chapters are long-term ramifications of living together in written in. They feel that men and lovers to share beds but Bale. That is why they think that men still love ourselves a bit more.
acceptance of a woman right off the rails do with the age-related?

Experts :25-35-year-old woman has been betrayed often adopt a "turning a blind eye" attitude, because they do not want to lose such a close relationship has just been established. 40-50 year-old woman has been learned that could derail the other half back "into the control", should come from a third party "challenge", for example, they will try to re-conquer the other half of the heart.

Sometimes infidelity is similar to electric shock therapy, will play the role of emotional catharsis. Betrayal of the woman but to rekindle the enthusiasm of partners, this situation is common. However, for some women, this renewed enthusiasm is through a depression in the performance of indulgence: the pursuit of sensual pleasure from the orgasm to get psychological comfort, like a camel suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder repeated masturbation, alcoholism ... ... a woman over 50 it is difficult to bear the blow partner derailed because they love their own possibilities - such as attractive to men - has declined.

derailed those who receive the women and willing partner, "to remain in the dark," sometimes for several years, between lovers, do have in common?

Experts: Do not be a third party said she was willing to just "stay in the dark" on the relaxed vigilance, so that the rationalization of their presence. Some women are always happy to make a U.S. appearance, content partner for its occasional warmth. These women usually have a "fear of being abandoned," the psychological characteristics, they are used to the lack of being loved, a bit like a child growing up in the shelters, they are very afraid of breaking up, and can not take the initiative to end a relationship, even if this feeling so that she was disappointed in, disrupt or even destroy her life.

Some women can not and another man "live" because they are the ideal relations between the sexes, and hope that love is not other-worldly air, caring for each other there is the eternal appeal of the beginning of everything is love, so pure and unadulterated. And stable relationship of partner, an affair between sustainable development is difficult to go up to just marking time, after all, Valentine also can not live without rice and salt. Of course, be able to separate a considerable period of time and others remain "physical relationship" a lot of people, but once the relationship began to involve refuse to buy bread, dry clothes, would be finished.

Everyone says, the real love of the people do not afterwards, may be daily lives, there are several pairs of couples can really chic? Romantic is to use money as a cushion. The face of money, how do we and the other half "equanimity" mean?

From couples to spend money so easily parted
wrong one: never talk about

Why is this wrong? Once the period spent in love, couples will inevitably be faced with practical problems, when they began to settle the account of the mind. If one party to take the initiative to pay the bill often forget the other party, or to remind him, or suffer in silence, but in the end there will be an outbreak of the day is inevitable quarrel.

The best solution: trouble everyday life in terms of money before the problems began to talk about it explicitly clear how to pay the expenses of the two. In order to avoid side think they are paying the price further information, two to establish a joint account, with this account of the money to pay expenses.
Error 2: income different, but the implementation of AA system

Why is this wrong? Because even the AA system, the principles of fairness, but it increasingly difficult to be borne by the party should be reduced. The result is accumulated resentment in their hearts.

The best solution: the income gap between the couple, the best solution is based on the proportion of income to determine the proportion of to-day expenses, so that everyone can save some money, buy things they like, but also there is no grudge land to the other side to buy gifts. No doubt, this is the most equitable principles.

Error 3: A person who is responsible is also the mortgage, another person, the burden of daily expenses

Why is this wrong? No two people from the economic participation of major investment decisions will certainly bring about the future regret. Does not participate in further mortgages side will feel the house is not their own, this kind of sentiment on the couple it was a very serious time bomb.

The best solution: people under 30 years of age issues in the joint venture often hesitating because they are for their future is uncertain. But psychologists say that if two people want to invest, the house is the best choice: in a house of their respective owners the right to live together can bring feelings of spiritual equality.
error 4: A person who manages two people's money

Why is this wrong? Because of money management will become a right. Psychologists tell us that if a party in a loving relationship has absolute control over the right to continue to cause long-term relations between the two imbalances.

The best solution: women are more careful, better managers, they consider themselves among the majority of the financial situation of the family responsible. One of two people to manage money, why not? But the condition is respect each other's freedom, without comment, after all, everyone's values differ somewhat.
Error 5: A person who shall bear all the expenses

Why is this wrong? If long-term commitment to economic pressures alone will make the psychological side to become heavy, very happy, anxiety, irritable, the face of the other party's carefree feel unfair.

The best solution: money troubles should be shared by two people, even if your income is really much higher than the other. You can right the other side, said: "What is your opinion?" "Helped me to solve this problem together." A sense of participation in love is very important. Two people's common to find ways, not only to find better ways will find mental balance.

For most people, the feeling that time has just been established, we will use a variety of tricks to test each other. Maybe we can ask each other direct openings of their own views on the relationship between the intention, but we usually do not do so, and sometimes even done
- Like interviews, as we still do not trust the authenticity of the other answers, we will in the "trial period" pull out all the stops find out.

Let us insight about tactics between couples it, if you think the following scenario is very familiar, in later life, we must learn to distinguish what each other's eccentric behavior is an objective of the difficulties, or a close loved one little trick. More importantly, we must learn to give them - give them that really counts, see
the first grand opening is triangular test

When the wife of suspected or want to test your loyalty, they will exert this trick. They observe carefully you have attractive people's responses, which may include you on the street watching the time and location of beauty; you take classes or beautiful view of the company, you are their own and a woman / man, the contrast between the and evaluation. We all know - no matter who you are, your girlfriend probably not Karena Lam Qiaomei, your boyfriend will not be as smart as Tony Leung, but the key question is how do you deal with these difficult issues - so that answers are neither contrary to their conscience (if you care about it), do not hurt and gas. Sometimes the truth hurt, and sometimes love, indeed makes us feel that "you in my mind is the most beautiful."

second test is tolerance test

(As far as I know, such tests around me couples in the appearance rate is very high, in my understanding of these related theories, before I knew and made use of it). Couples who want to know exactly how the other side of their own stubbornly persists. And most people believe that zeroing in on, for us, the difficulties and obstacles among the never give up is an alternative to sweet talk, it is more able to make us feel this life, enduring love for each other. Therefore, many people will painstakingly create all sorts of difficulties and disadvantages, waiting to see whether or how to go beyond the other non-natural barriers Road. If you can not care about each other's parents if they are satisfied in each other's resolutely to break off the days when the cry cry land (most of the girls break off the relationship when in fact no such intention), the other party can not "tolerate" their all trying to correct, or to his / her importune and vexatious responded with tolerance, you can safely get through the Road Insurance Commissioner.

last resort is the farewell Test

If we are in love period, it will put that "everyone needs the solitude of space and freedom" completely behind, we only hope and the other formed by couples bonded together. There is endless talk about the case, there is endless talk about the situation, there are endless things. Infinite time together shortening the separation time to be overly long. At this time, we can not help but want to see how the other side can not do without their own in the end. If you have this right - a little bad, or pretend to be so busy with each other utterly exhausted and spent a few did not meet each other a long time, we can see the other side is warmly looking forward to return to our body side. There are many clues to the separation period for telephone, text messaging frequency, and then when they meet each other's face and the fear of re-separation.

These are what we are experiencing, but sometimes we make moves sometimes we give them. Some difficulties are not entirely real, they were brought in good faith, the other half infinite zoom to test our "Love competence." Perhaps you feel a bit cruel, but I see more love and fun. From another perspective, if we have begun to react, or at least we have shown that the counterparty has sufficient attention; if you want to gain full confidence, we sometimes do need to battle-hardened. Probationary period, we had to go beyond the test, if in order to sign a "lifetime contract", which is a bargain.