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Chiung Yao's romantic novel, there is a stylized description of that conflict is the core of many stories-law conflicts. Male and female are very in love, but the man often has a widowed mother for many years, she and the heroine go against everything. Actor is very good also very filial piety, unwilling to hurt his mother, while he was deeply in love with the female lead; heroine of the actor is infatuation, but can not stand his mother's everywhere to make things difficult. This dilemma so that male and female, and also hard to be difficult, thus driving the development of the story; eventually tend to have a tragic ending. The female lead in this inextricable contradictions in extreme pain, she chose to run away from home, or die of grief. Such stories make cachet of teenage girls and starry-eyed young woman who watched the side away tears, unable to stop.

Qiong Yao's story is romantic, but her mother-and daughter talking about the universality of contradictions in reality, very. A look at our neighbors, and relatives and friends were bar-laws have some conflicts more or less. Do not live together, there is the appearance of harmony; living together, like the Ukrainian eye like a bucket of chicken a Mei Wan.

Why do not other family affection between mother-and daughter relationships, as calm, for example, Wengxu relationship; why the number of mothers get together, talk about a wife to endless complaints about it all?

I think the contradictions in-laws does not matter who produces what wrong, nor is it who will not deal with interpersonal relationships, it stems from the universality of human nature, more precisely, from women's characteristics. I think that the resulting conflict-laws have the following three reasons:

First, the child wins. We have often heard her mother complain that after her son talked about his girlfriend, especially after the marriage he did not so good as before. Others are very filial piety from an early age his mother, listen to mother's words Guaier Zi, married later, obviously with his mother grew apart. The signs are to convey a message to his mother that his son's wife Qianzhu all of the thoughts, the son put more care and attentive to his wife, while his mother ignored a lot; it to have been his son as the child's mother felt that her son farther and farther away from their own. Mother felt the main reason for this phenomenon is the emergence of a wife. Therefore, the kind of mother would her son to vent their anger with his estranged wife. Perhaps the wife has not done nothing wrong, but because of heart with such bitterness, so how to see how it unacceptable and daughter. Especially since some mothers, young widowhood, depending on the spirit of his son as a pillar of his son's alienation as if deprived of the spirit of relying on her; the mother is even more resentment of her son, daughter snatched her into a lonely spirit. Chiung Yao's novels I have mentioned above, the right type of small to analyze the mother's state of mind, but the performance of such mothers are most vividly. In particular, these mothers do not want to see her son and daughter-in front of her affection, because in her view, there go the closer, the more far away from here on. Some of the mothers early in the morning of a wife is called up to do housework, or see the wife up late, and unhappy; is not what a wife really wrong, just because her mother do not want to see her son and daughter spend more affectionate.

To resolve such contradictions in-laws, the best way is after his son got married and live separately from their parents, eyes do not see a net. In addition, the sensible mother's son better not to be too affectionate in front of the wife; want to intimate to return to their home and how little can be affectionate. Done at random before the mother that make the mother's mind a lot more practical.

The second is jealous. Son, married love, the family of a young woman more. Generally speaking, young women than in older women more attractive to men and his wife caused by the arrival of the most attention in addition to this family other than his son is the father of. We are private between the father and the daughter-in-deviance is called "Pa Hui." Novel "Dream of Red Mansions", the focus has Bahui large cursed Jia's things out of course, refers to the funeral Tianxiang Lou Qin Ke-qing lewd matter, JIA Zhen Qin Ke-qing, and father of this paragraph. This phenomenon is not uncommon in popular, because if an individual, and there is no word of a dedicated; the vast majority of people will not have this to happen, because the Chinese people's conscience is still relatively strong. But not to say that any father-daughter pairs had the idea of a father is a big rogue? I do not think so. My Fair Lady seeking gentleman well these words, in the family circle will not necessarily come out, but the idea is unavoidable, and it is very normal. On the contrary, I feel that if father did not mind that feeling, that is not quite in line with human nature.

I want to make an example. We pass a high-end of West Point, when the shop window and saw windows stood an attractive cream cake, if we are hungry, we do not wish to bite a few mouthfuls of that cream cake? However, we may be reluctant to spend money or no money with him; So, take a look at an attractive cream flowers, cream smell that intoxicating fragrance, swallowing saliva, may be left. However, you do not buy it, you do not eat, do not you do not want to buy it does not want to eat, but take into account other factors, you only give up the idea of eating. But if your family bought milk cake, you want to eat when not restrained and eat all you want ?. But it can not hold that, you are only interested in pairs of family cake and butter cake, the outside is not interested in it?

Law and ethics can only block the action, nothing can block the thought, or block the idea of layman's terms. Understand this principle is very easy to understand the kind of father and daughter-in-the delicate relationship between them. On the one hand is the opposite sex, while daughter-off than the old woman young and beautiful, fresh and mysterious, her father even more attractive. However, in most cases, the Chinese people by moral constraints, will restrain the idea of living does not meet the moral, and the surface of What's the matter did not look.

Zennai who restrain their action, will inevitably expose the subconscious instinctive action. For example, a casual look at a wife, or vision, when swept in the wife's body remained for half a second more than a father he did not realize anything, or that he thought it all very natural, there is nothing inappropriate places; but mother out of woman's unique way sensitive, but to accurately capture this phenomenon. Mother felt the father's mind aroused wife attracted the attention of father, old man of their original focus has changed. Leading to the reasons for this phenomenon, of course, went into the house of the wife. And so they blame on the wife's own sense of loss. Even the old man's a casual movement, an expression, is also considered to be the old man her mother began to hate himself, and tired himself, this is kicking up clouds of bad wife.

Wife went into the house, the grandmother was the first loss of the child after the loss, she thought to feel better? That all heart imbalance, it is clear that not blame wife blame Who? But that is difficult in the ming, so there will be a through grandson, Through good and bad food, or through other chores at home will mean up. Where unsuspecting wife, because she was the kind of mind to wait a few years later, and so she became a mother, she can understand, this moment she could not understand. Mother how she felt finding fault it for no reason? Her mother unreasonable strange, strange lady is an old monster. This hatchback have this kind of psychology, she met one can do? Can do is not noisy?

Or in front of said, his son and daughter-in-laws do not live together, father and daughter meet less, such troubles would be reduced, the gas must shun her mother much more.

The third is jealous. Literary works in the film where we often see such a performance. When a man praise a woman in front when another woman, that woman will say: "Do not praise a woman before another woman." Why? You say another woman is good, she listened to be jealous.

I am a teacher in the National Taiwan Normal University, I taught class there are two female students prefer to come to chat with me. Whenever I mentioned in a girl before the merits of the other girls when the two girls were amazingly consistent, they look like a great expression, and are not willing to listen to. Easily lead to jealousy among women, especially when a pretty girl one time, more likely to be jealous of other girls. The same unit, the same sections, and the more recent jealousy will be. They may not have any interest, the young beautiful in itself would have been jealous of other women. By middle age after the beauty is gone, this will be reduced on a beautiful lot of jealousy; is because of this, among the middle-aged women are particularly vulnerable to making friends. After the women move into middle age, much easier to get along with each other. Therefore, the young wife has just come to her husband, her young and beautiful, and her beautiful wardrobe, and make has entered the middle-aged and even elderly mother-envy. A man's wife will often buy some clothes from time to time to the mother to help her mother dress up dress up, so you can defuse some of this jealousy.

Mentioned above, the relationship between mother-and daughter prone to three major reasons for the contradictions, I think that human nature, this three kinds of incentives have led to conflicts exist, but because each person's ethical standards, interpersonal abilities and each family the specific situation is somewhat different; so, it may be diluted in some family conflicts, and did not stand out, while in another family, then the expression was even more acute. If you want to understand, the relationship between a person's social attributes, social attributes and human beings in addition, there are natural attributes, you can easily understand my analysis. Of my analysis was not justified, you can try other people think you are familiar with, but it is best not to tell his people face to face to listen, understand very well on it. Specifically to refer to someone's there such a thing, people of non-urgent you can not.

41st words: the romantic age

Text / imp children children children

Night, in bed, SUN Jia-Mo dashing population: "Marriage of travel, of course going to honor the European luxury ah. Rome's Trevi Fountain, Venice's pigeons, as well as Paris and Amsterdam." I sigh: "Of course? I had no money to a 2 do not have time, how, of course? "Jia Sun were playing with phone calls day and night, looking forward to Yang Jiao. Since her last night to accompany the mother to eat and walk, she has been suffering in the hope and disappointment.

I grabbed Jia Sun a person's mobile phone, look at where she and Yang Jiao was taken in the face of Europe. Looked at looked at, I have another checking a cell phone. SUN Jia-like being who I turned off the lights of hope in life, snatch away the cell phone she shouted: "Tang Xiao-xian, Yang Jiao if you causing me to miss the phone, I can not leave you a lifetime to Europe." I do not think Italy, Bei Guoshen: you harm it, anyway, I do not rare in Europe. Anyway, I was long past, Tang Xiao-xian covet flashy romantic age of marriage in order to have a companion live, but also not to go to climb the Eiffel Tower wearing a wedding dress.

But why, I turn off their cell phones Jia Sun is jealous because my heart do?

I am carrying people to Zhenglun SUN Jia-call: "Otherwise we went to Europe, right? Lifetime once Shier, your something on your bar, le belt not to have passed it?" I say this, only feeling that they are disgraced, before the "City Beauty" Flor gone. At that time, in my sea before my mother would made it clear beforehand: "shop? This is not by intellectuals become Erdaofanzi?" Now look, her words really had come true. Now every day I wait on people to wear dress pants, and to bargain, speech in the half-truths in mind, apart from money no other. Tang Xiao-xian city that is called Beauty really have a rest in eternal peace. Jia Sun to see people who, although is not that rich, but at least honest marriage, there is Daozhang monthly salary. Which, like me, year round, be necessary to rent worried, believe it, assets would shrink.

Zhenglundaoshi than my peace of mind: "Okay, you want to go we'll go. I have a few credit cards can be a good brush."

Rumbling, thunderstruck. Brush credit card life, the best is the end of the sudden death be the end. But I would also like Tang Xiao-xian was a long marriage with Jon Baron, sharing magnificent sunset is good, how can heavily in debt?

At the end, I said: "ah, in fact, China's vast land, mountains, rivers and everything, why should we leave the country then? Right, right?" So, we locked in the destination firmly within the territory of China, even Japan and South Korea do not consider the Xin Matai .

Yang Jiao, or did not give SUN Jia-one call. SUN Jia-one has given me rubbing shoulders, to me for advice: "You say, I am not her mother is not simply to report to him I owed ah?" My shoulders do not ache, letting her give me Chuibei: "I see ah , is your mother-eyes is unknown but their hearts are out, just get aware that you are hypocritical. "Waner Ming Jia Sun who hammer me:" Well, you have the body and old bones, scattered forget. "I'd rather die.

While the other one the night before, SUN Jia-Yang Jiao finally picked up the people.

He stands straight downstairs in my home, I look at floor, saw him. But this time, Jia Sun Tangjiashan toilets were still in my eyes in Miaomei painting it. I walked up: "You god sakes, let's go pick her grown doubled. I have long felt she had slept over." Yang Jiao Yi Leng saw me after the first, and only later, said: "Tang Xiao-xian, you seem to also 2-year-old. "This time, for I had Yi Leng. Yang Jiao this stiffly in physique, but also slightly with the countryside Wazi demeanor, but this conversations, we rather glib overstatement infected Beijing. He added: "In the past to see you when you are like a strong woman, I really did not expect you so, ah, how I say, such a youthful, pleasant."

I Pooh, youth, pleasant? You might as well say that I am innocent. I am also really did not expect, Yang Jiao him to do, ah, how I say, such a loose-tongued. My 3-year-old married women had not prepared to accept the praise of man contrived, and I think, SUN Jia-happy people do not stare at her husband's own sister Zhi Gougou bar.

I took a goose bumps right Yang Jiao said good-bye. At this time, Zhenglun actually driving the van drove from far to near. It appears that the appeal Tangjiashan really is strong this morning.

Zhenglun get off the embrace of a bouquet of red roses. I immediately double pedal to make Ehupushi like. It appears that no whitewash, dressed in jeans and flat shoes for me, really young, invincible ah. Yang Jiao, then really sharply.

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since the son was born, my husband two directly by the sweet world has entered four of the world. Do not think I gave birth to twins, ah, is not so extreme: only because of the arrival of her son, mother, and we have had on the unbreakable family of four lives.

No way, ah, they have to go to work, nannies also can not afford, nor be assured that had mien please come and help her mother and started and her mother is also confident he could get along very good, experienced a down-laws get along really found is not so simple, 80 between the post and 50 post-gap is not as simple as can be crossed by.

Take the most common life of trivia for instance, previously only when the life of me and her husband, often he was washing dishes I cook, I wipe the window he was mopping the floor, both with quite a tacit understanding with the sharing of household chores, no one said .

But now is different, and distressed his son's mother can not see my husband do the slightest thing to see him put on a do something to help me look up that immediately grab;
"Oh, your menfolk of how Tate's so good for nothing, I have come to me," while robbing him of the manual labor while Zhiding me. That vision, as if I committed a little sin and she could not bear that clemency could be full of blame that one point had not pull down. Impossible for me to help delivery Lianjiao husband had to root around Chouchou onion-law is available.

Several times down, they are too lazy then told him to help, with the result, and now her husband and she was so used to being looked after, and then refused to help me do anything, but also righteous, not I quit, ah, let mother. There are many such things, I am sure you sisters and I have the same experience! No matter how pleasing, my mother is neither hot nor cold, but then gives way, or cousin, saying that elderly people need to coax, as long as she feel that you her body center, put in some effort. Happens, the recent milk door matter is taken to the uproar, her mother did not dare to drink milk, and let me show off their capabilities Bar!
In fact, elderly people sometimes just want us to care about them some more, so simple.

Xiao-shun said that it might wait too long, have forgotten why wait, wait, I forgot, just like a man gone too far and forget why the same departure.

Work in Chengdu, a small-shun (a pseudonym), a mobile display thankful to see a familiar phone number, it seems that heart will instinctively tightened - Xiao-shun afraid to meet his mother's phone, but can not access.

Her mother on the phone, asked Shun, this New Year's Day unit of them several days off? Fight did not intend to go home ah? In fact, Xiao-shun know that it is customary to call the mother way, then, the mother will soon be transferred "to the topic." Her mother on the phone for small-shun said that she was in Chengdu for small Tuoshu Ren Shun identified an object, the other side is a good business person in charge of benefits, 36-year-old, although there is a small daughter after the divorce, but the introducer said that were good, very motivated ... ...

Xiao-shun said nothing, she just quietly listened. The mother finally said she was ready to come to Chengdu on New Year's Day, and the introducer who, together, we get to know each other. Hang up the phone, Xiao-shun his hands were trembling, she was finally unable to control his emotion, burst into the bathroom, crying out loud, said his mother, put her daughter a horse bar. In fact, the small-shun not that strange mother or her friends to your boyfriend introduced "conditions" With the growth of their age on the decline, and even kind-hearted people to the small-shun-bit introduced a single, but a slight physical disability The man, Xiao-shun just feel invisible rope appears to be a more Le tightening, and she is now getting worse and worse quality of sleep has started to affect to work. Xiao-shun said that she often felt nervous, restless, and then this keeps up, she did not know what the result will be?

Obey a small remote town in Sichuan through their own efforts admitted to a prestigious university, to stay in Chengdu work, as a result of outstanding leadership thinks highly popular unit. However, because of the nature of work together with the reasons for relatively small-shun character introverted, poor communication, personal problems such delays down. Xiao-shun said that this year, mother and daughter each call, the mother would tentatively ask, "you do not have static and dynamic ah?" Sometimes I even said that she had an anxious sleep. Also, the mother did not know where would such a big talent, went so far and the small cis-unit leader, colleague or even a small-shun neighbors and so on "collusion," it seems to unite to fight a single small-shun "war of annihilation."

In fact, the small-shun her mother has clearly feel that they behaved in the eyes of her description of the object this matter have a strong resistance. Mother said: "We do this the scene of bitter quarrel." However, the mother think about very sad, she said she was the greatest happiness is to see her daughter will find happiness, the daughter of a person in Chengdu, the Housing also bought the car there , but there is Toutongnaore who can come to care about this? broken light bulb in the house should be their own words ... ... Here the mother, has choke with sobs.

Xiao-shun said she, so, too. "In fact, my friends are all around better in pairs, I am afraid to participate in the wedding of my colleagues, I often feel lonely. However, not because we were casually looking for individuals married to ah!" That is what has always been to enable small-shun to wait go? Is it really waiting for the prince on a white horse?

Xiao-shun said that it might wait too long, have forgotten why wait, wait, I forgot, just like a man gone too far and forget why the same departure.

In fact, the single matter whether the marriage Ye Hao, must you have your good, I have my tired. Everyone is yearning for a good day. Single people longing for is not the marriage itself, but the fire within her view of marriage to the stability and warmth. Xiao-shun said the single, she was pursued by no means a way of life, but this does seem very helpless state, she only hoped that her mother brought pressure on smaller, perhaps, without too much trouble, when really love will come quietly.
Yes, We wish to shun the mentality of an acceptance and open to take the initiative to meet their true love.
Love to meet with pro-active attitude

When parents because you marry, to interfere in you, with their parents quarreling will only highlight of your childish, so that more parents want to help you, you have nothing to interfere. Pre-emptive strike a good way is to tell them: "I am sorry, so far, have not yet found the ideal object, I also hope that quickly entered the wedding hall, but this is my marriage is Ningquewulan is my principle. I hope you give me enough time for me to decide. If you put pressure on me will only make me even more sad, does not help. "

However, the verbal you come to me and I was unable to reduce the text medium, such as young women shun such an older inner apprehensive. May wish to think carefully about their position bar. There are good songs to sing: "waiting for happiness tend to be people unhappy", rather than waiting, it is better to take the initiative. Analysis, is not its own standards for choosing a mate out of the problem? All die a natural death or if each piece of love comes and goes disappear just as quickly, whether the self-examination, whether they have been in and the same type, this does not suit their men in exchange ? Each end of romance is to follow the same trajectory? If the answer is yes, then try to find ways to improve the bar.

Beautiful love and marriage is the need to find their own initiative and working hard, and those "this is a doomed marriage," then, are used for Hong Hong Qingdouchukai romantic novels where the small female. If you have, unfortunately, entered the ranks of older, but also remain convinced that such a pack of lies, it really was that the comprehensive reflection of themselves.

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34th words: old and new family

Text / imp children children children

To eat hot pot in general people are eating much the same, nothing more than beef and mutton, seafood, soy products plus a number of fungi. I Mohuazhaohua: "ah, coincidence, and we two were almost taste it." Zhenglun one, echoing the Road: "ah, yes ah, ah really a fate." But I would think a fine: these words is really artificial, eating hot pot to eat out of what the taste difference? Hot or not hot? Also that of the bar.

I have two mother sitting face to face with each other to see each other secretly observable. My real mother is my mother was three years old although older, but the skin is slightly better. Her passion for health, work and rest, but also love the egg shell with cucumber inside the skin and remaining egg white beauty. Exactly the same as their hair, ears or down, the volume or Jumbo children children depends only on the moment from their last trip to the barber's time is short or long. I look sexy to head a small volume Zhenglun children, the effect, and barber shop has nothing to do, only from a hair salon. I have two mother's stature is also almost the same, one meter 6 to succeed, neither fat nor thin, but there is fat on his waist. By this age they are, who can no fat on whose behalf no blessing.

The central rectangular table, copper pots in uproar. I have always respected, and copper pots and charcoal genuine, not the steel was steel and the furnace and that stove and other modern technology, products could match.

I Zhenglun face to face, rising and moving pots hazy. The four of us head-cutting, I am nothing but intuition earth-shaking moment. Can really only a moment, Zhenglun drops a drop of sweat on the forehead to. I am refreshing, I feel better, such as bubble-like fleeting images. I whispered: "The Why wear a suit, eating hot pot more." Zhenglun down loudly: "First time I saw his uncle, of course I wear a formal ah." Of course, after which he hastily changed his tune: "No, see the Dad . "

My dad sat across from grandmother Zhenglun, watching Zhenglun and grandmother in the middle. He heard words, and flew into the back straight and pretty plate: "ah, ah. Without formality." May be a matter of fact, the most cautious of that one, must go to him. My dad tall and thin, long arms, long legs. He has been thought that his daughter would be the genetic him, were as pretty as the mantis-like female models. But the result, I was almost reduced to become a children's wear model. I called the one-meter six, in fact, a meter 58. I think of sub-primary school is more good than harm, although a living person under the eyelids, but the youth seem right or wrong. To me, the youth has exceeded the limit of marriage, up to the current top priority. My dad, wearing glasses, a typical intellectuals, and outstanding member of the appearance. He and my mother in front of me, but added lively, but in the stranger, such as Andrew in front, then the remaining dignified. He was extremely shy, and even belong to him thin Tangjiashan's son did not dare look straight.

I Tang Xiao-xian's first warming party perturbed. Only to hear my mom: my daughter spoiled now, you can be much more magnanimous. I also heard the mother said: Rest assured, I will not be wronged Xiao-xian's. I thing that strikes my mother simply agile, prior to my being labeled as "pampered" label, lest my mother and my mother's mother put me up as an order about a girl. I feel my grandmother generous charitable, and say what, she was the phrase "rest assured" an export, my heart was steadily Daoshi Dangdang the first place.

As for my father, and grandmother is akin to eating a mouth do not say. I have then when you debut Zhenglun house, they see the amazing appetite grandmother, far above me. And today my dad sitting opposite her, quite a competition was intended. I saw a side of chopsticks, a chopsticks over there, like a peak Lunjian. I saw it, he saw a clear: This is two, the title is one of the people are long, can be a matter of fact, are is a puppet. Ate did not say is the best policy.

Zheng Lun's appetite should be inherited from your grandmother. Although he was sweating, it still bites.

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